Self-Talk: The Silent Story of Optimal Performance

A study of Olympian gold medalists found two traits, in addition to deliberate practice, that set super achievers apart:  complete confidence, combined with self-talk to create that total confidence. We always engage in self-talk, always ask questions, whether or not...

The Allure of Chaos

Those born to the storm find the calm very boring. Dorothy Parker What is the most common addiction we have as humans?  The magnetic pull we predictably will return to, no matter how good our lives are? We rationally desire peace and stability, yet paradoxically have...

What Story Is This?

You’re writing a very personal story with its own history and language.  It’s highly visible to others, but often not to you.  It’s a story that you talk about every day; think about several times a day.  While remarkably simple, it is at the same time intricately...

The Missing Manual of Unwritten Laws: PART 2

You dishonor yourself if you let anyone ghostwrite any aspect of your story. “More” is not a goal, yet its elusive appeal contains hope and happiness. Grief unspoken will seek another language of the body or heart. Each moment we actively construct what we think,...

The Missing Manual of Unwritten Laws: PART 1

What remains unconscious will be attributed to fate. The most important problems cannot be solved—they have to be outgrown. Your life is a self-statement, the manifestation of what exists inside you. If you find yourself denying change, it has already occurred....